Write down everything you find that you think might be even slightly incriminating. Don’t think that you will be able to remember everything, you are under enough stress as it is without having to keep all the information in your mind.
You must keep track of all suspicious activities, including the dates and times. An example of this would be if your husband goes to the gym, yet when he gets back his towel is neither wet not smelly. You will be able to track patterns in his behaviour when you have all the information written down.
It is important that you pay extremely close attention to all the things your husband says or does on a day-to-day basis, and make notes about it. You may think we have noticed a new or modified behaviour one day, but you are not really sure of yourself. If you are keeping note of all this you will be 100% sure that you are correct.
Set your own boundaries on how far you want to pry into your husbands private life. Some women believe certain boundaries are not to be crossed, but you must do whatever is comfortable for you, and remember that often the end will justify the means.
Your phone bill is one of the most important things that you should keep track of, if you notice numbers popping up on a regular basis that you don’t recognize, you should make note of them and run them through an online service to get information on the owner. It is a very simple mistake that your husband could make to call his new girlfriend on your phone, but is highly possible that he has done it.
When you are looking for evidence, and more importantly when you have found it, make careful notes of everything. Make sure that you don’t leave any evidence of your investigation behind you, this means you should make copies of any and all paperwork or e-mails, leave the originals where you found them. You do not want to make your husband suspicious until you are sure you have the evidence to confront him.
When you think you have accumulated all the evidence you need, and you’re ready to confront your husband, make sure you have a plan! Write-down all the questions and accusations so that you won’t lose track. Have all the evidence prepared as it is important that you have a watertight case, don’t confront him until the evidence clearly points to his infidelity. You must prepare yourself for him to continue lying is will be a very emotional time for both of you.
You should always follow your intuition, it is very powerful and will lead you to the truth.
